RESOURCES
The conference is a sprint; we want to equip you for the marathon: a long-term lifestyle of worshiping and walking with Jesus, living out the fruit of that intimacy with Him in healthy relationships, a pure heart, a pure mind, and biblical sexuality.
Books and Articles
A few books will be available for purchase at the conference. Some we recommend are listed below. If you can’t make the conference, consider ordering one or more on your own. Although we consider these biblical and healthy, some books may not sit well with every reader’s convictions in matters of conscience. Also, some books are targeted for different age ranges.
We will continue to update this list as an informal reference page.
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The Men We Need: God’s Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any May Willing to Show Up, Brant Hansen. The world needs real men, real bad. And there are all sorts of conflicting ideas and messages about what a “real man” is (and is not). Is a real man one who hunts, loves sports, grills meat, fixes cars, and climbs mountains? Sure, sometimes. But that’s not really the point of being a man and it’s not the purpose for which men were made. Or listen to the podcast at Family Life Today: The Men We Need and How to Show up as a Man 5-7 Dec, 2022 |
| 12 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You, Tony Reinke Within a few years of its unveiling, the smartphone had become part of us, fully integrated into the daily patterns of our lives. Never offline, always within reach, we now wield in our hands a magic wand of technological power we have only begun to grasp. But it raises new enigmas, too. Never more connected, we seem to be growing more distant. Never more efficient, we have never been more distracted. |  |
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Aggressive Girls Clueless Boys, Dennis Rainey “Can u sneak out 2nite?” What a brazen question for a tween girl to text a boy! In our sex-saturated world, how can parents address the dramatic upswing of sexually forward girls in hot pursuit of their young sons? Aggressive Girls, Clueless Boys offers a solution to this unsettling cultural trend. Through 7 guided “Talk About It” conversations, what-if scenarios, and honest responses to questions from real-life parents, Dennis Rainey offers a detailed guide on teaching your adolescent son to set boundaries and pursue the right kind of girl. It’s time for straight talk with your son! Give him the courage to stand strong in a world enticing him to throw away his sexual purity. Or read the short article from Family Life Today. |
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Living in the Light: Money, Sex, and Power, John Piper Whether we’re rich or poor, married or single, in a position of great influence or not all of us face temptation in the areas of money, sex and power. They are the dangerous opportunities of our time opportunities to destroy our own souls, or to experience the true joy of using them for God’s glory. Articles and resources on Sexual Purity from John Piper at Desiring God Topical Survey of articles include: 1) Escape the Prison of Pornography, 2) Deny Sexual Cravings Outside of Marriage, 3) Deal with the Guilt of Sexual Failure, 4) Adopt Strategies for Fighting Lust, and 5) Delight in the surpremacy of Christ |
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A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World, In this practical guide, John Stonestreet and Brett Kunkle explore questions including:
With biblical clarity, this is the practical go-to manual to equip kids to rise above the culture. Or listen to episodes on Family Life today 11-13 Dec, 2017 about this book. The Culture and Our Kids |
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Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters, Dr. Juli Slattery This ground-breaking resource challenges and equips Christians to think and act biblically and compassionately in matters of sexuality. Or listen to Dr. Slattery on Family Life Today. Purity in Today’s World or God’s Heart for the Sexually Broken or Sexual Discipleship (3 episodes) |
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Sex in a Broken World, Paul David Tripp. Sexuality is a fundamental part of what it means to be human, part of God’s beautiful design when he created all things. And yet, we’re all affected by sexual brokenness in some way or another due to our own sinful nature and the sinfulness of our fallen world. In this honest and life-giving audiobook, best-selling author Paul David Tripp helps us see the transforming grace of Jesus Christ that has been made available to all people – giving us a clear view of God’s original design for sex and offering us a vision of human sexuality that both honors God and restores our full dignity as sexual beings. We will see that only the grace of Jesus Christ provides hope for a life of freedom, purity, and joy as God intended. |
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Surfing for God, John Michael Cusick Backed by scripture, Cusick uses examples from his own life and from his 20 years of counseling experience to show us how the pursuit of empty pleasure is really a search for our heart’s deepest desire—and the real key to to resistance is discovering and embracing the joy we truly want. Cusick’s insights help listeners understand:
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What’s the Difference? Manhood and Womanhood Defined According to the Bible, The topic of manhood and womanhood is still strongly debated today and still greatly impacts our society. For Christians there is no doubt that the Bible must be the last word. But what does it teach about true manhood and womanhood? In what ways are men and women essentially the same? In what ways are they essentially different? And how do these differences affect our roles in the home, the church, and the wider society? Noted pastor, author, and Bible scholar John Piper positively and sensitively looks at these important questions for both men and women. His conclusions will inspire and encourage you to live out your unique differences in a fulfilling, godly way. Also available free pdf download at desiringgod.org
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Faith for Exiles: 5 Ways for a New Generation to Follow Jesus in Digital Babylon, David Kinnaman and Mark Matlock Faith for Exiles reveals findings from a groundbreaking three-year research study of young Christians whose faith remains resilient even in exile. Authors help you: • Make sense of chaotic cultural changes and respond with compassion to the next generation of believers Related podcast with authors David Kinnaman and Mark Matlock 25-27 Oct 2021 |
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Chasing Love – Sex, Love, and Relationships in a Confused Culture, Sean McDowell will invite readers into Jesus’ radical, upside-down approach to love, and in doing so, he’ll answer some of the toughest questions we’re asking about love today:
Family Life Today podcast with Sean McDowell on 7-9 Feb 2022 |
| The Death of Porn – Men of Integrity Building a World of Nobility, Ray Ortland Pornography may seem inescapable, but God can free us from its destructive power. The gospel replaces the dehumanizing lies of pornography with this surprising truth: God created us as royalty. How then can we reclaim our God-given identity to take a stand against―and ultimately starve―the predatory porn industry? |
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Sexual sanity for Men by David White Men, you can make sexually sane choices! Written for Christian men struggling with any form of sexual brokenness, Sexual Sanity for Men: Re-creating Your Mind in a Crazy Culture by David White helps men understand that sexual sin starts in their minds and hearts. It shows them how knowing Christ breaks their chains, builds spiritual brotherhood, and helps them take practical steps to re-create their minds in a God-focused direction. Or read a short article adapted from his book. How Sexual Sin Emasculates Men |
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It’s about heart change, not behavior change. That’s the conviction of Tim Chester as he seeks to help everyday Christians “connect the truth about God with our Monday-morning struggles.” This interactive book, laid out in workbook fashion, is for newer Christians struggling with sin and for more mature Christians who have plateaued in their faith as they seek to find victory over sin in their lives. With a conviction that sanctification is God’s work and the journey to holiness is joyful, Chester guides readers through a “change project”-beginning with the selection of one area of life they would like to modify. Each chapter includes a question (e.g., Why would you like to change? What truths do you need to turn to?) to guide readers as they deal with a specific sin or struggle, truths from God’s word, and a reflection guide to help readers through their change project. |
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Why Do I Do What I Don’t Want To Do by Jonathan Pokluda We live in an upside-down culture. We wink at our vices as coping strategies while restricting our virtues to our online personas, where they won’t interfere with our real lives. And we wonder why we feel empty, exhausted, and directionless. But why do we do things that we know are harmful for us? Practicing virtues is not just something you do–it’s something done in you, slowly but surely transforming you into the person you were meant to be all along. Whether you’re 18 or 80, it’s never too late to redefine what’s important to you and reclaim a life of virtue. Listen to the podcast about the book Why do I do What I don’t Want to Do (and Powerful Vices) 30 Oct – 2 Nov with Jonathan Pokluda |
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Through the shared listening experience, object lessons and guided conversations of a Passport2Purity weekend getaway, you can set your son or daughter on a journey of moral integrity—and strengthen the bond between you. Passport2Purity® is designed to be used by a mother and daughter or a father and son when the child is a preteen. It is suggested that the materials be completed over a weekend away from home, as the child may be more open to discussing the topics away from his or her normal environment. |
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Passport2Identity helps you do more than just survive the teen years. It gives you the materials you need to prepare your teen for adulthood during a weekend getaway. All you have to do is plan the time and location. We’ll provide you (or another trusted adult) with the tools and talking points to help your teen transition to independence through dependence on Christ. During your Passport2Identity getaway, you and your son will enjoy 5 sessions:
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Messages and Podcasts
The following podcasts offer Biblical, Christ centered guidance and help with areas of sexual integrity and relationships
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2023 Conference with Rev Neil Stewart. Video and audio recordings of 2023 conference are available here in mov and mp3 format. Session 1 – Hitting the Target of Manliness Session 2 – Man on Fire: For Sex or for God |
Hosted by Dave and Ann Wilson
What Makes a Man and Strategies for Authentic Manhood 6-8 Nov with Jeff Kemp
Why do I do What I don’t Want to Do (and Powerful Vices) 30 Oct – 2 Nov with Jonathan Pokluda
The Toxic War on Masculinity 9-11 October, 2023 with Nancy Pearcey
God, Sex and Your Marriage 29 September, 2023 with Juli Slattery
Dating Done Right 26-28 September, 2023 with Sean Perron, Spencer Harmon
Additiction – and Our Marriage’s Happily Even After 14-15 September, 2023 with Bob and Dannah Gresh
Anger Issues in Boys and Emotionally Healthy Homes 17-18 Auguest, 2023 with David Thomas
Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys 7-8 August, 2023 with David Thomas
Navigating Gender Questions with Gentleness 19 July, 2023 with Jered Kennedy
Cultural Pressures:Digital Devices and Clothing, Sexual Identity and Your Influence 13-14 July, 2023 Ron Deal with Dr Meg Meeker
Sexual Purity after Purity Culture and Cultural Lies 5-7 June, 2023 with Dean Inserra
The Men We Need and How to Show up as a Man 5-7 Dec, 2022 with Brant Hanson
The Difference between Boys and Men 5-6 August 2021 by Dave Wilson
Identity and Holy Sexuality 28-30 April, 2021 with Christopher Yuan
Teaching Boys to Esteem Girls and talking to sons about porn 23-25 March, 2020 with Dave Willis
Mentoring Resources available at Family Life Today related to Sexual Integrity
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Sermon series and extra resources from Bay Area Community Church Sep – Oct 2022 |
Organizations
The following organizations offer Biblical, Christ centered guidance and help with areas of sexual addiction and healthy relationships.
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The Covenant Eyes app tracks activity on your devices. The Victory app shares your activity feed right to your ally’s phone. Through meaningful conversations, your allies will be there to pick you up when you fall down and cheer you on when you succeed. |
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Quit Porn with our Free Flagship ProgramOur flagship pornography recovery program uses a holistic approach. We consider biology, psychology, and spirituality—all from a deep and committed Biblical perspective. |
Harvest USA Harvest USA brings the truth and mercy of Jesus Christ by helping individuals and families affected by sexual struggles and by providing resources that address biblical sexuality to individuals and churches.
Proven Men We have a passion to see men being set free from their sin and passionately pursuing Jesus in a personal relationship with Him. We desire to see this transformation and growth to happen within the walls of the local church! It’s all about men experiencing the power of the Gospel within their lives and struggles!
Walt Mueller’s Center for Parent/Youth Understanding The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding (CPYU) endeavors to increase the ability of home and church to nurture children and teens into a lifetime of biblically-faithful, whole-life Christian discipleship.
Heartsong Counseling Ministries Resources In a world that is filled with sorrow, suffering, and broken relationships, Heart Song Counseling reaches to timeless Biblical Truth, allowing it to speak deeply into our being in order that God may bring about Heart Charge – unveiling a new set of eyes to see hope, joy, and intimate relationships – which allows our heart to sing a New Song.
The Navigators – The Sexual Health and Wholeness (SHAW) Initiative envisions generations of laborers living and ministering out of sexual wholeness and relational health in Christ. ReWire is a new, foundational 61-page Bible study designed primarily for the younger generation (men & women) to gain a biblical perspective on God’s beautiful design for human sexuality. Its 8 chapters (free download) are meant to be prepared individually and then discussed in a small group setting.
Wild At Heart – The World is at War. The Human Heart is the Prize. Come get your heart back. Of the many resources, check out the Prayer for Sexual Healing
Scripture Memory Fellowship exists to cultivate systematic Scripture memorizers who know Jesus Christ and grow in His likeness for the glory of God. Verse Locker is their app to help you hide God’s word on your heart. They have several resources to help motivate and instruct you how to memorize scripture.